Inspirational Stories

How Using 2 Specific Words Dramatically Changes the Way You See Yourself

“How many days until you’re a grown up?”

That’s what Lily (our 5-year-old) just asked me.

It kind of just made my day.

About a year ago I noticed some “fine lines” 😉 around my eyes. I immediately thought, “NOOOOO! This can’t be happening! I cannot be getting old!”

Every time I looked in the mirror I could see those fine lines and I would scrutinize over whether they were getting more pronounced or not. And I would think, “I’m getting old.

Shortly after, I heard a story from Joel Osteen. He said that he had a friend in high school who would always go around saying he was old, fat, and bald. However, he was anything but. He was actually a really good looking guy.

But just to be funny whenever anyone asked him how he was doing he would always respond with, “Oh, I’m just old, fat, and bald.”

Fast forward 30 years and a man approached Joel with a friendly and familiar “hello!” but Joel had no idea who he was. Seeing that Joel didn’t recognize him, he finally told him his name.

Joel was shocked to realize it was his friend from high school. Yet…he looked nothing like he did back then…he was now old, fat, and bald!

Joel said,

“Here’s the principle. Whatever follows the “I am” will eventually find you. When you say, “I am so clumsy,” clumsiness comes looking for you. “I am so old.” Wrinkles come looking for you. “I am so overweight.” Calories come looking for you. It’s as though you’re inviting them. Whatever you follow the “I am” with, you’re handing it an invitation, opening the door, and giving it permission to be in your life.”

When I was in high school, I made the decision that whenever anyone asked me how I was doing I was going to say, “I’m great!” Instead of “I’m fine.” or “I’m okay.”, I would respond enthusiastically with “I’m great!” Even if I didn’t feel great, I was still going to say it.

I don’t remember how long I had been doing it but I can vividly remember the moment that I realized it was working…that I truly felt great… I was working at Claire’s Boutique in the mall when some friends dropped by to see me. They asked how I was doing and I said, “I’m great!”

In that moment I knew it was true, I was great! I felt great. My life started to reflect the words I was telling myself and others.

Joel went on to say,

“God made you as you are on purpose. He gave you your looks, your height, your skin color, your nose, your personality. Nothing about you is by accident. You didn’t get overlooked. You didn’t get left out. God calls you His masterpiece.”

Dieter F. Uchtdorf lovingly declared,

“the most powerful Being in the universe is the Father of your spirit. He knows you. He loves you with a perfect love.

God sees you not only as a mortal being on a small planet who lives for a brief season—He sees you as His child. He sees you as the being you are capable and designed to become.”

We may need to take that first step in the dark. Step into the truth that we are what God says we are. Tell ourselves over and over how wonderful we are, how cherished we are. Don’t wait for someone else to do it…tell yourself.

I no longer scrutinize myself in the mirror. That’s not who I am.

I now tell myself that I’m young, beautiful, blessed, worthy, and strong. I feed my mind with the pictures of how I want my life to look. Pictures of how God sees me.

So when Lily asks me “how many days until I’m a grown up”, I can confidently say, “Way too many to count!”


Try this for a week:
Each time you look at yourself in a mirror, put a BIG smile on your face and say…

I am beautiful.
I am valuable.
I am worthy.
I am amazing.
I’ve got this!

Even if you think you’re lying to yourself…push through. You will be amazed at how you will begin to change. You will see a difference on the inside and out.

To hold you accountable, send me an email when you’ve accomplished this. I want to know how it went! [email protected]